The state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband
and wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law
is a thing of joy, but why are many enduring in this partnership
instead of enjoying it? The truth behind the scene is what every single
ought to know.
Failing to plan is planning to fail. From my
interviews and researches on married people, I found out that a lot of
them especially the females went into marriage with illusions while the
males were not mature. To excel above those who have gone before you,
all you need do is to learn from their failures and successes; this
places you on eagle's wings.
You must be marriageable before
you go into marital relationship, if not you mess up this great
institution. An intimate or close union is not for the immature male
and female because true matrimony is not a marriage of convenience.
Your marriageability is what influences your marital circumstances. If
you are fully prepared and properly position yourself for this journey,
nothing will upset your applecart.
Never do things because
others are doing it. If anything is worth doing, it must be done well.
You don't get married because your mates are marrying. You must be a
person of mark who is marked by a perfect personality in this day and
age. You are the choicest of the best, so, if the mountain top is your
desire never settles for the valley. You should never get because of a
married name or marital status. The real marriage starts after the
wedding ceremony, now the thrills of the wedding march have faded, the
wedding cake finished and the wedding ring a symbol; what keeps the
union going is the conviction, love and commitment that you have in
your heart which lubricates, reinforces and builds the holy agreement.
Before you tie the knot, know that marriage is a university of no
graduation. It is a life time business so, you must be careful on the
type of person you go into partnership with because divorce is not part
of this commission. To do well in your marital relationship you must
build your self- concept which involves self- awareness, self-
appreciation and believe in one yourself. Know your strengths and
weaknesses. Know the rules of relationship and understand the maxims of
maturity, for they greatly position you for success in marriage.
You can build a strong family by knowing what men want, what women want
and what God want in marriage. Be mindful to produce offspring's that
will positively impact the system that drives the progress of humanity.
Know this – children learn by imitation, so be a good exemplary. Know
you that parenting is not a joke; a mistake you make in raising up your
child or children will affect your family and the society. Make your
marital relationship divorce–proof. Gain maturity mentally, socially,
spiritually, physically, intellectually and financially. Husband and
wife must know their role and fulfill it. Let your union be
characterized by fidelity and dignity which is worthy of emulation.
As a visionary you don't marry anyhow! Go for the best. Be aright and
you will get it right. Do away with boyish or girlish mentality.
Develop yourself because like attracts like. A man wants a woman who is
as mature asBritain, as beautiful asAmericaand as endowed asAfrica. A
woman wants a strong honest and influential man; one who has favorable
financial state and believes in himself. As a man, you are a leader and
king in your home. Have a positive attitude and lead well because
everything rises and falls on leadership. Woman, you are a queen, play
your part well.
Proper preparation positions you for
success. With these truths gird yourself and create your state of
favorable circumstances. You have a choice; unite with your better half
and love him or her for being your best friend' then your marriage
will be on the upward and forward only. You have a choice! Apply what
you have learnt from reading this article and your marriage must
succeed.
Copyright, Ifeanyi Enoch Onuoha
OVERCOMING THE CHALLENGES OF LIFE by IFEANYI ENOCH ONUOHA